Private Coaching
Individual support for working with patterns, habits, and real-life challenges
Sometimes it’s helpful to have a space that is focused entirely on your own experience.
Private coaching offers a more individualized way of working with the same kinds of patterns explored throughout this work—how you relate to stress, emotions, habits, relationships, and the situations you find yourself repeatedly navigating.
Rather than following a rigid protocol or formula, the work is collaborative, practical, and grounded in what is actually happening in your life.
When 1:1 support can be helpful
Private coaching may be a good fit if you:
- want to go deeper on a specific pattern or situation
- are navigating something complex, sensitive, or ongoing
- prefer individualized support rather than a group setting
- want help applying this work more directly to your daily life
- are already doing inner work, but want more consistency and traction
Some people begin here.
Others arrive after participating in a group program and wanting to continue or go deeper.
What this work focuses on
People often come into this work carrying patterns that feel difficult to interrupt—even when they understand them intellectually.
This may look like chronic stress and overwhelm, emotional reactivity, habits and routines that don’t stick, recurring cycles that keep repeating, or situations where you react in ways you later regret.
The difference in private coaching is that we slow things down and work more directly with what’s actually happening in your life, in real time.
What I mean by "patterns"
When I talk about patterns, I’m not just referring to repeated behaviors on the surface.
I’m pointing to the underlying processes and conditions that shape those behaviors—how thoughts, emotions, habits, beliefs, and your nervous system interact in real time.
For example:
- anxiety → overthinking → shutdown
- fatigue → low motivation → self-criticism → more fatigue
- stress → avoidance → short-term relief → repeating the same cycle
The habits you see—like scrolling late at night, skipping something you intended to do, or reacting in a way you later regret—are often expressions of these deeper patterns.
The work isn’t just about changing the behavior.
It’s about understanding and working with what’s driving it.
How this can show up in real life
The patterns we work with often show up in very concrete ways.
For example, you might notice:
- feeling consistently sleep-deprived, wanting to change your evening routine, but continuing to fall into the same habits at night
- drinking more than you intend to, especially as a way to manage stress or unwind
- setting intentions around movement or exercise, following through for a period of time, and then losing momentum
- patterns around overeating or undereating that feel difficult to shift
- cycles where stress leads to behaviors that create even more stress
These aren’t separate problems to “fix.”
They’re often expressions of deeper patterns shaped by habit, emotion, conditioning, and the state of your nervous system.
Part of the work is learning how to recognize and work with those deeper dynamics more directly.
A different approach
This work is not primarily about optimization, productivity, or pushing yourself harder to accomplish goals.
The approach is grounded in:
- understanding how patterns show up in your life
- recognizing how stress and nervous system dysregulation affect your ability to follow through
- developing the ability to stay present, even when things are difficult
- building responses that are sustainable in real-life conditions
- learning to work with your nervous system, rather than against it
Rather than forcing change through willpower alone, the work focuses on creating enough awareness and stability for different choices to become possible.
How sessions work
There’s no fixed curriculum.
We work with what’s most relevant in your life while staying grounded in a consistent approach to patterns, nervous system regulation, and behavior change.
Depending on the situation, sessions may include:
- reflective inquiry and discussion
- mindfulness or awareness-based practices
- ACT and DBT-informed approaches
- nervous system regulation tools
- practical habit and behavior change frameworks
- embodied practices or perspective shifts
Sessions are:
- 45 minutes (via Zoom)
- typically weekly to start, with biweekly options possible over time
- ongoing or short-term, depending on your needs
Relationship to the group program
Some people choose to:
- begin with 1:1 support
- participate in the group alongside individual sessions
- move into private coaching after completing a group cycle
There’s no single “right” path—just what best supports you.
If you’re unsure, we can talk it through together.
A note on the process
This work is practical and grounded—but not always easy.
It involves learning how to stay with your experience more directly, and gradually building the capacity to respond differently in real situations.
Over time, what changes is not just what you understand—but how you relate to what’s happening as it unfolds.
Getting started
If you’re considering working together, you’re welcome to schedule a free 20-minute consultation.
This is simply a chance to:
- talk briefly about what you’re navigating,
- ask any questions you may have, and
- get a sense of whether this feels like a good fit
No pressure—just a place to start.
